On 24th November this year, at about 7.30am, a group of cyclists were riding down a bike track beside the M7 highway west of Sydney, Australia when they heard a noise, like the faint meowing of a kitten. They stopped riding and looked around but saw nothing. Eventually, they traced the sound to a storm drain by the side of the road. They pulled off the concrete cover and found a one week-old baby, wrapped in a hospital blanket, lying at the bottom of the drain.
The
little boy had been squeezed through the drain's narrow opening, dropped and
left for dead. He was found malnourished and dehydrated. Sydney had been
sweltering in temperatures above 30C and it is thought the baby, who had been
abandoned five days earlier, would not have survived two hours longer if those
cyclists had not heard his cries. It was a miracle he survived the fall and was
discovered when he was.
You probably heard this story in the news. His mother is facing charges of attempted murder but the little boy is now in good care and is doing well. I paid particular attention to it because I happen to share a birthday with that little lad; 18th November. I wondered what it would have been like, for me, to grow up knowing I had been rejected or mistreated by my own mother.
You probably heard this story in the news. His mother is facing charges of attempted murder but the little boy is now in good care and is doing well. I paid particular attention to it because I happen to share a birthday with that little lad; 18th November. I wondered what it would have been like, for me, to grow up knowing I had been rejected or mistreated by my own mother.
It’s
more common than we realise. According to the NSPCC, about one in ten children
in the UK have experienced neglect at some point in their lives. About 200,000
babies are aborted in our country each year.
New
laws in the United States have made it possible for unwanted new-borns to be abandoned
at specific locations, known as safe havens, with no questions asked, and with
no threat of prosecution. These laws have had to be passed because the
phenomenon of unwanted babies is on the increase.
And
as I reflected on the sadness of all this, it occurred to me that Jesus too entered
our world as an unwanted baby.
It
would be unfair, strictly speaking, to say that Mary, his mother, didn’t want
him. In fact, the Bible says that she accepted that her child was from God and she
trusted the Lord for whatever would follow. But I don’t think she would ever
have planned her life this way. To be pregnant before her wedding in her
society was scandalous and deeply shameful and it still is throughout the
Middle East. She could have been stoned for it. As she wondered as a little
girl what motherhood would one day be like, Mary would never have wished for
her first pregnancy to be overshadowed by public disapproval and disgrace.
Joseph
certainly didn’t want him, at least at first. It took him time to come to terms
with the idea that his fiancĂ©e was expecting a baby that wasn’t his - but without
her having been unfaithful to him. We know he wanted to call the wedding off
and was ready to walk away. That was only ever about this unexplained pregnancy.
As far as Joseph was concerned, Jesus was an unwanted baby.
Then
Mary and Joseph’s wider family didn’t want him either. If their home town was
Bethlehem, there would certainly have been relatives of some sort living in
that area. But when they arrived in Bethlehem, no one opened their home to them,
they were persona non grata - so they had to look for somewhere to stay in a
local hostel. But they felt Mary had brought dishonour on their good name. They
disapproved of Joseph marrying what they saw as a loose woman. As far as Joseph
and Mary’s wider family was concerned, Jesus was an unwanted baby.
Then
the Innkeeper didn’t want him either. A young couple turns up looking for a
room but his hostel is already overcrowded and he’s short staffed. He’s got
drinks and evening meals to serve in his congested tavern, a full complement of
breakfasts to prepare and serve at first light, rooms to turn round before
midday, paperwork to do… the last thing he needs is another hard luck story on
his doorstep. Mary and Joseph were just another problem. It wasn’t his fault
the girl was pregnant. As far as the innkeeper was concerned, Jesus was an
unwanted baby.
Then
Herod didn’t want him either. Anyone who had a claim to his throne, even a
new-born infant, was not to be tolerated. Herod thought nothing of killing two
of his own sons the moment he suspected they were a threat to his reign. Anyone
showing the slightest ambition of claiming his title “King of the Jews” was ruthlessly
eliminated. As far as Herod was concerned, Jesus was an unwanted baby.
All
through his life Jesus was unwanted. The Scribes and the Pharisees hated him. His
own brothers thought he was out of his mind. Those from his home town tried to
stone him. Judas betrayed him. The Temple Guards arrested him. The Chief
Priests and Elders indicted him – though they couldn’t get their testimonies to
agree. Pontius Pilate condemned him – though he couldn’t find a thing wrong
with him. His closest friend Peter disowned him - though he had sworn loyalty
to him just hours earlier.
Isaiah
the prophet foretold about Jesus 750 years before he was born saying, “He was
despised and rejected by mankind, a man of suffering, and familiar with pain.”
All four Gospels agree that he was precisely that.
As
you know, this year marks the 100th anniversary of World War One and the
unofficial Christmas truce that broke in several places on the Western Front.
No
one quite knows for sure where it began or which side was the first to start singing
Silent Night. But soon, German and
British soldiers were singing in unison. Slowly, a few squaddies emerged from
the trenches, hands in the air. No one fired. So more came out.
The
dead, left out in the middle of the line of fire, were recovered and given a
proper burial. Eventually they all met in the middle, exchanged gifts of
cigarettes and chocolate and played football together. There were prisoner
swaps as well.
The
following year, only a few units arranged ceasefires. There had been strongly
worded orders from high command on both sides not to fraternise with the enemy.
Jesus
was once again an unwanted baby, this time by the military generals who sent
millions to their deaths in a war hardly anyone knew the reason for.
By
the year after that, 1916, no one wanted a truce any more. There had been heavy
losses in Verdun and the Somme and the widespread use of poison gas had long ended
any inclination to show a bit of seasonal goodwill.
Everybody
wanted peace, but nobody was prepared to accept the terms of the Prince of
Peace, Jesus, the one who said to his followers “Love your enemies” and “Put
your sword back in its place.”
To end, I want to read you a few lines from Bonny who is a social worker
and who might well have been an unwanted baby. Because she wrote,
“As a child
I suffered years of abuse. Even into my thirties I had flashbacks of the
terrible things I suffered. Years of hating people who had hurt me left me with
a very bitter heart. I was often ill and in complete distress with physical and
mental pain.
Having
become a Christian at the age of 31 the issue of forgiving those who hurt me
reared its head. I did not want to do this. I recall banging my fists on the
floor and telling God in no uncertain terms that I would not and could not forgive.
But as time
went on I began to realise forgiveness was not about those who had hurt me. It
was about the damage that not forgiving was doing to me. I learned that
forgiving is a decision I could make, not a feeling I should feel. So I said these
words, ‘God I do not feel like forgiving but as an act of my will I choose to
forgive. I ask that you forgive the people who hurt me and forgive me for all
the wrong things I have done.’
An amazing
thing then happened. As I forgave, God took away the dreadful flashbacks and
pain I had felt all those years. The flashbacks began to get
less and less and the physical pain in my body began to heal.
I now know
that God can rewrite a life no matter how sad or painful it has been.”
From his
unpromising beginnings as an unwanted baby, no one has transformed more
individual lives and impacted human history more than Jesus of Nazareth.
Carol Service talk at Saint Mary's Long Newton and All Saints' Preston on Tees, 21st December 2014